I was cleaning up the house over the weekend and found a piece of paper taped to the back of a picture which I think was given to us during pre-marriage counseling with the church we were going to. Today is my parent’s wedding anniversary so it is especially timely. For those of you getting married (you know who you are), hope you find this helpful. Marriage is like fuel you put in your car, every now and then you have to fill it up before the tank empties for it to keep going.
- We will do our best not to go to sleep while we are still angry with each other. We will work hard to achieve peace before shutting our eyes.
- We will not add a burden to our relationship by living beyond our means. It only creates chronic discomfort and triggers an argument.
- We will try hard to respect each other’s different way of being in the world. We will allow that there is not just one way of doing something.
- We will each take responsibility for our own contributions to the problem we have, rather than point a finger at our partner.
- We will remember to celebrate our strengths as a couple. These are easy to forget when we are locked in conflict.
- We will agree that violence can never be a part of our relationship.
- We will accept each other as wonderful, flawed human beings with limits.
- We will expand our support system so that our relationship does not carry the entire burden when we are under stress.
- We will each take the risk of reaching beyond old, familiar ways of relating and discover a new mutually-rewarding way of experiencing the love that brought us together.
- We will become skilled in the art of forgiving each other.
- We will listen respectfully to each other. We need not agree, but we do need to be heard – and to hear.
- We will commit ourselves to maintaining a healthy partnership knowing that it takes work to create a rewarding life together.
How to hallucinate with ping-pong balls and a radio
Text by Johan Lehrer, graphics by Javier Zarracina
“DO YOU EVER want to change the way you see the world? Wouldn’t it be fun to hallucinate on your lunch break? Although we typically associate such phenomena with powerful drugs like LSD or mescaline, it’s easy to fling open the doors of perception without them: All it takes is a basic understanding of how the mind works.
The first thing to know is that the mind isn’t a mirror, or even a passive observer of reality. Much of what we think of as being out there actually comes from in here, and is a byproduct of how the brain processes sensation. In recent years scientists have come up with a number of simple tricks that expose the artifice of our senses, so that we end up perceiving what we know isn’t real – tweaking the cortex to produce something uncannily like hallucinations. Perhaps we hear the voice of someone who is no longer alive, or feel as if our nose is suddenly 3 feet long.”
I heard a great saying yesterday which basically says “when you say yes to something or someone you are saying no to something or someone else”. For instance if you say yes to working more than 40 hours a week, you are saying no to being somewhere else. If you take a second to think about it that is kinda deep isn’t it? I don’t know I thought it was deep anyway…
Think you are web 2.0 savvy? Yeah I thought I was too until I took this quiz which was pretty fun. I scored 19 out of 34. My question is how do you get the answers to the ones you don’t know? Maybe I missed that?
“The estimated total amount of gold mined by humans would fill a cube that’s only 25 meters on a side. Platinum is even more rare…all of the mined platinum in the world would fit inside an average home. ” That explains why platinum rings are so expensive!