Risk

“To laugh is to risk appearing a fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk rejection.
To place your dreams before the crowd is to risk ridicule.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To go forward in the face of overwhelming odds is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk
nothing.

The person who risks nothing does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he cannot learn, feel, change, grow
or love.

Chained by his certitudes, he is a slave.
He has forfeited his freedom.
Only a person who takes risks is free.”

— “The Dilemma,” Author Unknown

This timeless poem reminds us that growth happens at the edge of our comfort zones. Each moment of courage—whether in love, creativity, or personal challenge—carries the potential for both loss and extraordinary gain.

What risk have you been hesitating to take? Perhaps this is your invitation to step forward.

Do Not Let Your Fire Go Out…

Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark,
in the hopeless swamps of the approximate,
the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all.
Do not let the hero in your soul perish,
in lonely frustration for the life you deserved,
but have never been able to reach.
Check your road and the nature of your battle.
The world you desired can be won.
It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours.

Ayn Rand (1905-1982)
Atlas Shrugged, Russian-American Novelist

This stirring passage from Rand’s magnum opus encapsulates her philosophy of individualism and personal determination. It serves as both a warning against compromising one’s highest potential and an affirmation that genuine achievement is within reach for those who refuse to surrender their vision.

Whether or not one agrees with all of Rand’s Objectivist philosophy, this particular excerpt resonates as a powerful call to perseverance and authenticity in pursuing one’s deepest aspirations.

The Laughing Heart by Charles Bukowski

Charles Bukowski portrait

The Laughing Heart

“your life is your life don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission. be on the watch. there are ways out. there is light somewhere. it may not be much light but it beats the darkness. be on the watch. the gods will offer you chances. know them. take them. you can’t beat death but you can beat death in life, sometimes. and the more often you learn to do it, the more light there will be. your life is your life. know it while you have it. you are marvelous the gods wait to delight in you.”

— Charles Bukowski, from “The Laughing Heart” (1992)

“The Laughing Heart” is one of Bukowski’s most hopeful and inspiring poems, a departure from his typically grittier work. Published in 1992, just two years before his death, the poem speaks to resilience and self-determination in the face of life’s challenges.

Bukowski reminds us that even in our darkest moments, we retain agency over our lives. The repeated phrase “your life is your life” serves as both the opening and a central reminder — a declaration of ownership over one’s existence and the possibilities it contains.

Please Don’t Help My Kids

A Parent’s Plea: Please Don’t Help My Kids

On Letting Children Learn Through Challenges

One parent’s plea to the other parents at the playground: please don’t help my kids.

“They’re not here to be at the top of the ladder; they are here to learn to climb. If they can’t do it on their own, they will survive the disappointment. What’s more, they will have a goal and the incentive to work to achieve it.

In the meantime, they can use the stairs. I want them to tire of their own limitations and decide to push past them and put in the effort to make that happen without any help from me.

It is not my job — and it is certainly not yours — to prevent my children from feeling frustration, fear, or discomfort. If I do, I have robbed them of the opportunity to learn that those things are not the end of the world, and can be overcome or used to their advantage.

If they get stuck, it is not my job to save them immediately. If I do, I have robbed them of the opportunity to learn to calm themselves, assess their situation, and try to problem-solve their own way out of it.

It is not my job to keep them from falling. If I do, I have robbed them of the opportunity to learn that falling is possible but worth the risk, and that they can, in fact, get up again.”

Building Resilience

Children develop emotional strength when allowed to experience and overcome manageable challenges.

Problem-Solving

When children work through difficulties independently, they develop critical thinking skills and confidence.

Healthy Risk-Taking

Learning to assess and take appropriate risks is an essential life skill that children develop through play.

“They’re not here to be at the top of the ladder; they are here to learn to climb.”

Questions for Parents

  • How often do you find yourself rushing to help your child before they’ve had a chance to try solving a problem?
  • What small risks can you allow your child to take that will help them build confidence?
  • How can you support your child’s independence while still keeping them safe?

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What’s your approach to helping children develop independence? Share your thoughts and experiences on balancing safety with freedom.