They Come, They Eat, & They Leave

I post a lot of information to this site and wanted to take a moment to say I really appreciate those who take a moment out of their busy day to give back by leaving a comment on any of my posts.  I get a fair amount of traffic, nothing like an “A-List” blogger, but decent.  That isn’t to say I’m satisfied with what has been done to date.  I’ll admit it, I can get frustrated when I put time and energy into something and get criticized for it, and almost as frustrated when those who come to consume the content don’t give back.

I was recently involved in a social media discussion with a handful of individuals and I’m writing this in an attempt to change the perception of the world that bloggers are egocentric, among a few other stereotypes. The person I was discussing social media with informed me they don’t blog and I was also informed the person didn’t have a Facebook account. I told the person they should because “sharing is caring” to which I was told “blogging is egocentric” and people who have blogs “think their thoughts and ideas are the best”.  Finally I was told those who blog “only care about themselves”. I told the person blogging is about sharing and was told “no it is telling”. In the following paragraphs it is my intention to “share” my thoughts on the conversation and as always I want to open this topic up to you to so the conversation can be continued.

Let’s first discuss the idea that “blogging is egocentric”. In my opinion people who have the time and expertise to communicate their thoughts and ideas on a social platform (including blogs) should absolutely do so which allows the entire world to potentially benefit.  I’ve been thinking about it and at first I thought people who do not share their thoughts and ideas for all to benefit are egocentric but after thinking about it further I believe it is their right to withhold information. People who have blogs do want attention, but don’t we all? We want to be heard and we want to share what we think.  We want to share what we find interesting and that is what I have tried to do with my blog.

I next want to discuss the portion of the discussion where I was told “blogging is telling” rather than sharing which is what I believe. I’ve written several thousand posts on this blog and have unfortunately only received a few hundred comments. It is my full intention that whatever is posted is in many instances an opinion and although I’d like to think my opinion is always correct, I understand it may not always be the opinion shared with others reading the post. However, that is what makes a blog a fantastic communication platform. Blogs give communicators the ability to put a thought, idea, video, article, communication etc out for the world to comment on and my posts are no exception. I share my thoughts, ideas, and content I find compelling in the hopes that others will benefit from them and if they have time (which for some reason few do), provide their own thoughts and ideas.

When I get a new comment on one of my posts, I literally feel like Kip Drordy from the now infamous South Park episode.  I normally don’t watch South Park but I heard it was going to be about Facebook and I have to tell you it was hilarious (in a Junior High sort of way I remind you).  For those who didn’t watch it the episode, it was about a kid named Kip who had no friends on Facebook.  Stan decided to become friends with Kip who freaked out upon learning Stan cared enough to friend Stan up.  Kip took his laptop to the movies, he told Stan (via Facebook) what he ate for dinner, and much more only for Stan to later unfriend Kip at the end of the episode. The next time you think about not commenting on one of my posts, just think back to that South Park episode and remember how happy I will be after receiving your comment.

Blogging sometimes reminds me of being an ant in the movie A Bug’s Life.  The ants slave away by harvesting their crops only to have the grasshoppers come in and take their food.  Take all you want from my blog but as they say in buffet lines, eat all you take.  Every once in a while if you want to leave a tip just know it is appreciated.  OK enough said on that.

Finally, if you don’t have a blog or Facebook account just know for whatever it is worth that I completely respect that. It won’t however stop me from trying to compel you to share your thoughts and ideas with the world however that may be…just share!  Of course doing so opens you up to scrutiny but we only have a very brief time on this planet for us to learn from one another. Social media and blogging tools have empowered a new generation to share expertise like no other time in the history of the planet. Tell the world your ideas and let everyone benefit from what you have to offer.  Just whatever you do, don’t criticize those who are giving.  It is always better to give than receive but every once in a while give back!

Yosemite

I went to Yosemite yesterday with Christina and her family, or maybe they went with me? Any how, we all went to Yosemite yesterday and the weather was beautiful. I’ve been fighting a cold I got from Tyler but got through the day pretty well despite a nagging cough and fire hydrant nose. On the shuttle ride back from Yosemite Falls everyone on the bus saw a black beer but for some reason I couldn’t see it along one of the rivers. We did see lots of deer, birds, and oh yes even a squirrel or two which I managed to get a few shots of. We rented bikes which ended up being a great way to see a lot of territory in just a few hours. Got home around midnight last night so I think after church today it will be a nice day to relax and get healthy again.

Notes From BJ Fogg’s Presentation

Last week I was at a Communications Media Managers Association (CMMA) event in Plano, TX (not too far from Dallas, TX). The keynote speaker for the event was BJ Fogg a Stanford University professor who talked about “Hot Triggers & Rituals The New World of Persuasion.” There were some technical difficulties which delayed his presentation which I know rushed him and didn’t allow him to get through all of the content he wanted to present.

The best example I think he gave was of Oil of Olay which required him to do morning and nightly treatments to help “fight wrinkles”. He was noticing he wasn’t remembering to apply the treatment consistently, he would either apply in the morning or at night but often forgot to do both each day. He then told himself “I need a trigger to remind me to do it twice each day.” Like most Americans, he brushes he teeth twice a day, once in the morning, and once at night. Therefore to help remind him to apply the treatments he put the treatments in the sink where he normally brushes his teeth. That way he had to physically look at and remove the product from the sink before he could do anything else (it was a trigger/reminder).

His theory is essentially people need a reminder (a trigger) to do things and there are a number of circumstances which can either promote or prevent a task from being done. You can see his research at http://behaviorgrid.org/. Below are my notes from the meeting:

  • Started by talking about how it is best when you can automate persuasion.
  • Types of Behavior changes:
    • One time
    • Fixed period
    • From now on
  • Core motivators
    • Pleasure/Pain
    • Hope/Fear
    • Social Rejection/Social Acceptance
  • Simplicity has 6 elements
    • Time
    • Money
    • Physical effort
    • Brain cycles
    • Social deviance
    • Non routine
      • Each person has difference resources. These vary by context.
      • Simplicity is a function of your scariest resource at that moment.
  • Motivation, ability, and trigger must be present at the same time otherwise if one is missing, the behavior will not occur

  • You can increase a person’s ability by simplifying, not by training
    • Put “hot triggers” in the path of motivated people (hot triggers are when users can take immediate action on something that reminds them to do something)
      • New triggers if successful lead to new rituals which leads to new platforms (Facebook…Farmville etc)

Tony Robbins: Smart Marriage Conference

Tony Robbins Smart Marriage Conference

I follow Tony Robbins on Twitter who “tweeted” a link to this video today which I enjoyed and wanted to share.  Below are my notes from the video:

  • Tony Robbins has been obsessed with the question of what makes the difference in people’s lives. Why is it that some people who have everything yet spend most of their life going into and out of rehab? Then you meet someone who has been abused or nobody has been there for them and they turn out to be some of the finest human beings out there.
  • The challenge in life is emotional fitness. It starts with how emotionally fit you are in a relationship. There are patterns which make people emotionally unfit, there are patterns to make people depressed, angry, feel sorry for themselves, or sad.
  • Most of the patterns are common sense but as we all know common sense isn’t always so common. A lot of people say “oh I know this stuff” but if you’re not doing it, you know it, you understand it.
  • Discipline never works long term, what works is when you become addicted to something new you trade one addition for another. You shift from having to do something, to wanting to do something.
  • If you want to change your relationship, the number one thing you have to do is mask your own emotions. You have to learn emotional leadership, emotional management. Don’t fake your emotions, don’t push them down. Life is about being truthful to yourself.
  • People get scared when a relationship doesn’t work out and then they make it worse than it is so they don’t have to try. They don’t want to try again and be disappointed so most people make it worse than it is.
  • See the relationship better than it is. The Bible says people without a vision perish (Proverbs 29:18). If a relationship doesn’t have a vision, that relationship is also setup to perish.

Celebrity Apprentice Wall Color & Rambo

So here is a completely random and odd blog post for you.  I was watching Celebrity Apprentice tonight and I liked the wall color of the apartment in the picture above.  Yes, I’m actually blogging about this, I was watching TV, paused it, took a picture of the TV, and am now blogging about it…yes I’m strange.  I have traditionally gravitated toward earth tones for my wall colors and most recently had an entire house in wise owl which I thought was actually quite nice and somewhat manly.  I also like the color tones of what Starbucks uses in its stores, I’m just saying.

However, if done right the orange and yellow in the picture above is very nice for smaller spaces to help brighten it up.  In my old age of 32 I’m tired of boring colors, I deal with conservative colors all day and when I come home I don’t want my house to be conservative.  OK true, if it was actually on my walls I may feel completely different and men of the world I know you won’t touch this post with a ten foot pole but does anyone agree or disagree? I keep writing stuff like this and you keep coming back so who’s more crazy me…or you?

OK now its time for some football, some boxing, go shoot some guns, climb over some rusty barbed wire, go build a house…or fix a toilet…clean some fish (I did work in a seafood market for 2 years)…kill a deadly spider…pick a scab…watch Rambo or Terminator…grunt for no reason…you know the stereotypical manly stuff…haha I’m crazy!

PS – I thought I’d leave you with 25 stereotypical skills every man should know courtesy of Popular Mechanics:

1. Patch a radiator hose (um no)
2. Protect your computer (of course)
3. Rescue a boater who has capsized (I swim like a fish)
4. Frame a wall (I think so)
5. Retouch digital photos (oh yeah)
6. Back up a trailer (yeah)
7. Build a campfire (oh yeah)
8. Fix a dead outlet (if I had to…sure)
9. Navigate with a map and compass (why not GPS?)
10. Use a torque wrench (sure)
11. Sharpen a knife (I just buy new ones)
12. Perform CPR (I did take a class in middle school)
13. Fillet a fish (2 years experience thank you)
14. Maneuver a car out of a skid (yes…I mean no mom and dad…no)
15. Get a car unstuck (yes…I mean no mom and dad…no)
16. Back up data (of course)
17. Paint a room (of course)
18. Mix concrete (yes)
19. Clean a bolt-action rifle (huh)
20. Change oil and filter (nope)
21. Hook up an HDTV (definitely)
22. Bleed brakes (I don’t like blood)
23. Paddle a canoe (yes)
24. Fix a bike flat (yes)
25. Extend your wireless network (oh yeah)

And did I mention…RAMBO??????  OK I think we are now balanced out…wall color and RAMBO!!!

Some Random San Francisco Pictures

Went to the San Francisco on Sunday and I got a chance to take a few pictures of the city.

New Pictures Of My Nephews

I’m catching up on my email and wanted to post some new pictures of my nephews!  I think it is time for me to fly out and see them for a few days now that I am back from my recent business travels.