I’ve been reading articles from one of the Focus on the Family blogs for a while. I recently read one about marriage being a roller coaster was finally something I’ve decided to add my “two cents” on because I thought it was true, and I have some experience in that area. What I neglected to mention is roller coasters are meant to be fun, so don’t forget to have fun and take time to enjoy life and one another. Below are my comments (awaiting moderation):
“Great post and I agree marriage and relationships can be like a roller coaster. I would say before you even get on a roller coaster, make sure the person you are in a relationship with is compatible with the types of roller coasters you enjoy going on. Whether they be actual roller coasters or the emotional highs and lows of a relationship, couples all experience them whether they like it or not. Some people love roller coasters, and in “real life” some enjoy frequent emotional highs and lows. Some have hectic lives filled with chaos and drama (whether it is self-induced or not). Some avoid drama like the plague, so taking someone on an intense emotional roller coaster all the time may become too much for them if they prefer kiddie coasters or keeping their feet on solid ground all together.
Everyone is going to have to endure “monster” coasters in their lives together, so make sure the person you are strapped in with understands that and will stick through the good times and the bad. Marilyn Monroe may not be much of a role model to some, but I can appreciate her famous quote which is “I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes. I’m out of control and at times hard to handle, but if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as heck (we’ll change that word) don’t deserve me at my best.”
Communication isn’t everything, but it will solve so many problems in marriage and relationships. Don’t assume anything. It is a common stereotype that men don’t communicate, but women should know they often assume things and don’t communicate their thoughts, feelings, expectations, and emotions as well. Know that you are not responsible for your spouse’s happiness, but you can at times certainly help contribute (or hinder) it. Be open, honest, giving, truthful, respectful, loving, and remember to keep God, family, and the church community in your relationship for support.”